The wheel of life is a very important coaching tool. What are your main means of transportation? The car? The train? The bus? The bike? Skate? No, none of these! Your primary means of transportation is you. And how do you treat your car, your bike or your skate? Do the servicing, change the brake cable, check that the wood is not breaking. Beyond taking care of the mechanical parts, which refer to your body relate to the field of health, there is one fundamental thing that you always keep an eye on the wheels. Life is like a road ahead, full of curves, climbs, descents stops and straights to accelerate. Would you travel a road like this with a vehicle with wheels like this?
the wheel of life I don’t think so! The purpose of the “Wheel of Life” is to make you understand with which “wheels” you are making this journey. If today I asked you: “Hello, how is life?” most likely you would answer me “So-so!” at best.
In reality, when we answer about our life, we summarize the situation and always let the worst feeling prevail as if it were the one that commands. But if I change my question and ask you, “How’s it going with your mother?”, “How’s work going?” or “How’s Saturday night?” or “How is the study going” you will give me a targeted answer which, depending on the case, could be “good, bad, so-so, etc.”. So, when we think of our life in a generic sense, we have a tendency to make a nice soup and to ignore what is beautiful in our days. With the tool of the “Wheel of Life,” you have the opportunity to take a look at your life in its fullness, to take a snapshot, to rejoice in what is beautiful, and to isolate and analyze the weakest sectors. Its compilation is very simple.
On the thecoachingpub.com site you will find all the instructions you need to fill in your Wheel of Life, thus identifying which are the weakest sectors of your life. It is located in the introductory part of the site because thanks to the Wheel of Life it will be easier for you to choose the path that is most suitable for you. I remind you that the coaching paths within the thecoachingpub.com site are completely free.
The Wheel of Life – the Wheel of Life – is considered one of the simplest and most powerful coaching tools. He is one of the first I met, several years ago, during my journey to become a coach, and from which I immediately benefited enormously.
What’s it About?
It is a tool that you can build yourself. You just need a piece of paper and a pen, inspired by the image you find here
The wheel of life helps you to become aware, and to balance the various areas of your life. This is why it is also an excellent work-life balance tool, but not only … if you continue reading you will discover how many things it allows you to work on.
First of all, the wheel of life allows you to photograph the moment you are living and, above all, to make important distinctions (another reason why it is one of the most interesting tools).
Why is Making Distinctions so Valuable?
Because we often tend to complain in the round, without discernment. “It’s all a disaster”, “I can’t take it anymore”, “Everything is bad, so anything I do won’t help ..” etc …
With these phrases, which are nothing more than the fruit of our thoughts, we are in fact projecting the generalizations that we produce internally. Are you really convinced that there is really no single positive aspect in your life? The reality is almost always quite different.
The reality is almost always that there is some aspect that is absorbing you a lot, that is not going as you would like, but at the same time there are many spheres of your life that are going well or even very well, and for this reason, you may tend to underestimate them, not consider them, take them for granted by focusing exclusively on complaining about what you see as negative.
In practice, it is as if we crystallized on all those aspects that we lack to reach an ideal state in our mind and that we consider the minimum basis to begin to act (very often wasting our life).
See the phrases “If I had time I would do ….”, “As soon as I finish this job I will finally be able to dedicate myself to what I like…”. They are actually nice and good excuses. Change begins now, immediately, in our thoughts. In choosing now to look at the positive aspects and not focus on the negative ones that poison our existence. In choosing not to procrastinate anymore, not to continue to move the bar towards an unattainable ideal that is an excuse for never acting.
Here, the wheel of life helps us to see in a distinct and balanced way both the areas where we have work to do and the already positive areas, which are supporting us at that moment, which allow us to turn this wheel, to moving forward, often very well, despite everything.
Yes, because you have to imagine the wheel of life just like a wagon wheel with the different segments (the various areas of our life). For each area, imagine being able to assign a score from 0 to 10 depending on how you perceive to experience that single aspect.
A hypothetical wheel of life on which to start working could contain, for example, these aspects:
Environment / physical place of residence
Hobbies and Fun
For the wheel to ideally spin, we should have all the segments quite high in the score, or at least balanced. Instead, often, some areas report a very high score and others very low. Try to imagine what kind of wheel can come of it. A bit ramshackle, and that certainly won’t run smoothly.
How Do You Work With The Wheel of Life?
For each of the areas of the wheel, give a score based on your perception. On a scale of 0 to 10, where are you in that area (e.g. professional development)? How do you feel about it? Think you are at 3, at 6 at 8? Think about it and mark where you are (you can put a dot or color the segment up to that point). The level you think you are at is not an indifferent detail.
From “everything goes wrong” to discovering that in a certain area you have a score of 6 at the bottom, there is a big difference. And the fundamental aspect is that discovering that you are at 6 means being at a level that allows you to function. If you really want to aim for excellence in that area, you have a path to follow ONLY 4 points. (As you can imagine, this is not quite the same as “everything goes wrong”). In fact, 4 points are something you can work on. Step by step. By strategizing, and by stopping complaining. In fact, you may find that reaching 10 is senseless for you, it may be enough to reach 8 to feel satisfied, so the gap to fill becomes even less, only 2 points!
What is The Use of Seeing on Paper How We Perceive Ourselves in Different Areas?
To become aware and to start taking action to change, really.
An example: in the interpersonal relationships area you may want to further distinguish between personal and professional ones (remember the distinctions are important) and in the wheel, you may want to better address the issue of professional relationships that are not going as you would like.
Professional Relationships: Score 5
Reflection: I’m at 5 because I don’t feel in my place in my work environment. I have no significant ties to anyone and I feel this is affecting my career. My colleagues talk about things that don’t interest me and I keep my contact with them to a minimum.
Possible work to do: bring the sphere of professional relationships from 5 to 7 (ONLY 2 POINTS! It can be done !!!)
Examples of actions to plan:
go at least twice a week for lunch with colleagues
I propose – without waiting for the others – a coffee break to get to know colleagues better
try to tell something more about me, about my passions (maybe I discover that someone is cultivating my same interests)
The wheel of life works very well if, in addition to photographing your current situation, you decide one / two areas on which to start working and make micro-changes. You must give yourself a definite time, for example, a month, and draw up a list of changes and actions that you could carry out … and do them !!
Putting your intentions on paper is useful, and how. If you leave them in your mind they come and go, after a while, they disappear. Writing them instead is an act of great awareness and focus. Putting pen to paper “contracts” the commitment you have made with yourself in changing that specific aspect.
And in the meantime …
stop complaining about issues that affect those two areas you are working on. You’ve given yourself a month to make changes. You’re taking over the situation. Well. You have already become more active. Even if you won’t see changes immediately, finish what you set out to do for the month. And for that month all complaints are prohibited. If you still want to, you can do it at the end of the month dedicated to change (but you will see that things will have changed and the groaning will self-eliminate, indeed you will understand how much energy you have wasted instead of acting in a strategic and concrete way to improve your life).
Find out the areas of the wheel you need to work on, and start doing it.
We often tend to devote energy and attention to what we feel strongly about, continuing to do so again, again and even more because it gives us many positive confirmations. Instead, what we are not comfortable with or that we feel less good at, or that we already have difficulty with, we tend to abandon it or to procrastinate actions that are related to it.
The beauty of the wheel of life lies precisely in letting us see all the aspects: those we control best and those on which we have greater difficulty, allowing us to understand that if we do not balance the wedges the wheel will not turn!
The real challenge is therefore not so much in doing better what we already manage well but increasing our performance, our well-being by bringing to a higher level even the aspects that we are not managing enough.
It is a small effort that absolutely pays off. Areas with already high scores will also benefit. We are in fact one and we never work in watertight compartments, in isolated segments!
Symbolically, working on the wheel of life is a bit like working on your own centering. We are often thrown out of ourselves, from the thousands of commitments and activities that we often self-generated, and these risks lead us out of alignment. Consciously regaining possession of where we are, at what point we are in the various spheres of life that we care about, allows us to put ourselves back at the helm, make a plan of actions to direct things in the way that brings happiness, fulfillment, and meaning for us. And it’s all in our hands.
If an area is particularly unbalanced, you can decide to focus your efforts on expanding that area to make it a wheel.
Let me explain: are you unbalanced in your family sphere? OK. Try to clarify by dedicating a wheel of life to the family sphere, and in which the spokes are the different aspects that compose it. Eg relationships with the family of origin, relationships with in-laws, relationships with partners, relationships with children, relationships with other members of the family clan, etc … view the score in which you perceive yourself to be for each segment and work even more in detail.
Remember: always avoid generalizations. They keep you still. Instead, do more wheels, dedicated to the aspect you want to work on which is still confused.
The wheel is also interesting because it allows you to discover a lot about yourself. In fact, you might understand that what you need is not to try to remain ideally balanced on everything, but simply to decrease the space, the commitment, the energy you dedicate to work to the detriment of other spheres of your life or even while dedicating yourself a lot to work, achieve better results by better distributing the weights of the various activities you dedicate yourself to (e.g. less time on social networks – which I choose to have others take care of and more time on strategies that are waiting that I have to cure myself). Ok? Do you understand the concept?
If you don’t photograph and measure, you have nothing concrete under your eyes on which to start moving.
What if all areas are well represented and I’m actually very satisfied with my life?
Very well! Congratulations
However, use this result for further reflection. Are you still growing? Or are you rather “comfortable” in what you do and do not have stimuli?
As human beings, we are always tyrannized by two thrusts: one towards change and the other towards maintaining our comfort zones. Often, if we are very satisfied, very seated in what we do, we tend to give up even small challenges that could still keep us trained, show us new options, make us have more fun, surprise us and maybe even be useful at the right time.
This aspect is very important for those who already have a job, and all in all, they feel good about it and do not have major problems to solve or there are no conflicts that disturb them. Great to enjoy what you have. Always be grateful and celebrate. But be careful: keep listening to yourselves. You must always work on your Career Management. So if you feel underneath that your level of professional reliability could be affected by this “quiet” if it continues for a long time try to create conditions that can offer you new stimuli, satisfactions or even new cards to play when it becomes urgent!
The Wheel of Life is The Test That Helps You Improve Yourself
To feel good about yourself it is important to find the right balance between the different aspects of our life. If we focus all our energy on a single area, it is all too easy to find ourselves “out of balance” and overlook the values that are most important to us. In the long run, this state of affairs can lead to frustration and intense stress.
To remedy it, it is necessary to have an overview of one’s life, thanks to which we will be able to realize what is already good and what needs to be improved
The point is that we usually have a very vague idea and we tend to divide our days into two big chunks: private and work. Within these, everyone has an approximate idea of their situation: satisfactory or not.
Doesn’t that seem too superficial, not very specific and not very detailed? The point is that you need to be clear about the situation in each area of your life, otherwise, how can we decide to intervene? What new path can we take if we don’t know where we are now?
Instead, imagine being able to use a tool that allows us to assess the most important areas of one’s life with reasonable accuracy. Let’s imagine it as a kind of complete check-up. Let’s go specifically
The Wheel of Life and The 10 Areas
This is what in NLP is called the Wheel of Life. Through this tool we have the possibility to focus on 10 areas in order to then evaluate one’s degree of satisfaction for each of them:
1) Work: this is the area relating to one’s work situation;
2) Finance: the second area of the Wheel of Life consists of the area that concerns one’s own economic situation;
3) Family: this is the area that concerns the relationship with one’s family;
4) Couple: in this area, we enter into the merits of the relationship between oneself and the partner;
5) Entertainment: the fifth segment of the Wheel of Life concerns the area relating to leisure and one’s hobbies;
6) Health: this area represents the state of your health and your body;
7) Emotions: how excited do we get? This is the area of feelings;
8) Personal growth: this area of the Wheel of Life concerns one’s personal development;
9) Relations: the area of relations with others; friends, colleagues, collaborators, customers, acquaintances etc …
10) Mind: the last segment of the Wheel of Life represents the area relating to the development of all those processes that involve one’s mind.
For each segment there are lines that indicate your degree of satisfaction: it can range from a minimum of 1 to a maximum of 10. If there is an area in which we feel very knowledgeable, in which we are really smart … let’s put a nice 9! In fact, 10 means perfection …. but this does not exist. Quite right? Anything can be done better, always.
Let’s say, for example, that my work situation is travelling at full speed and that based on my judgment I feel I can attribute a value of 8. At this point, I will have to fill in the segment under consideration up to the line that represents the value in question. I take now, always as an example, my relationship as a couple; let’s say that despite the time I spend at work, I can still devote all the attention to my partner that allows us to be an excellent, close-knit couple. The relationship with the family, on the other hand, is barely enough as I can hardly find a moment to be with my loved ones: parents, grandchildren… Based on this judgment I give a 6. Here, just a few examples, now it’s up to everyone to fill in every area of your life.
The Wheel of Life and Individual Assessments
Here’s what the Wheel of Life might look like.
The first few times we have to deal with the Wheel of Life we are a bit confused because we have difficulty giving ourselves a vote. The reason? Simple, we are not used to doing it. We are very good at judging others but much less at judging ourselves.
Let’s take 10 minutes of time … that’s more than enough. My advice is not to dwell too much on the individual areas, let’s let ourselves go a bit: let’s indicate the judgment that we believe to be correct for that segment without thinking about it too much. If we think that the relations area is good then we mark an 8, if we do not consider the Health area sufficient we put a 5.
The Wheel of Life: Performing Areas and Less Performing Areas
By gradually filling the various segments of the Wheel of Life, an area inside the design will have formed and this shape will hardly be a circle. There will, in fact, be areas where we have given a good judgment and others where the indicated value is low. But this is absolutely normal, that is, having more successful areas and less performing areas. Let’s try to take a look at the wheel of life: what do we see? If we look at the most successful areas, those where our degree of satisfaction is higher, they have some important points in common. The most successful areas are those where we are well focused, where we invest our time with passion, perseverance, and determination.
If the Health area excels in the Wheel of Life, it is because we dedicate our time to training and eating carefully. If, on the other hand, the entertainment area is very limited it is because we are now inclined to neglect this important aspect of our life.
It’s all very simple: we have good values in all those areas where we are well focused. On the other hand, those where the results are poor are those areas where we have spent little or no time at all.
Wrong Strategy? Here is The Reason
We can dedicate as much time as we want but if the path we are taking is wrong you will never get us close to our goal. In these situations, it is advisable to stop for a moment and evaluate the problem from other points of view. We make the appropriate reasoning to adjust the shot or completely change course.
Another important aspect of the Wheel of Life is that it makes us understand how each of these areas is closely connected to the other: they interact and influence each other. The areas that excel have gone to the detriment of the others.
The Wheel of Life, How to Analyze The Results
Each person has something to improve in their life, even a little. Or a low score given to free time can be caused by little money or too much work.
Here’s how to read the results
Rating from 8 to 10
The category that has obtained this score is the one in which you are satisfied, it means that you are working well on yourself and you can continue to do what you do, also seeing improvements.
Rating from 0 to 4
Do not be discouraged, you are already at a good point because you have focused on the problem that afflicts you, start working on this category to understand what you can or want to improve.
The goal of the Wheel of Life is to help us create balance in all areas. The important thing now is to be able to determine what we want to do. Yes, because the Wheel of Life has done its job, and now it’s all in our hands!
Do we need to improve our level of satisfaction in the most deficient areas? Well, let’s choose exactly 3 areas on which we want to intervene for better results. We choose the 3 ones that seem most important to us and that require our intervention
The Wheel of Life and the improvement process
Having a nice 10 in all areas is virtually impossible. In fact, the goal of the Wheel of Life is not to excel in every area but to constantly improve in all those that you have not considered for too long.
I Think We’d Like to Turn That 5 into an 8: Right?
This is absolutely feasible and within the reach of all those who really want to improve the quality of their life. Everyone always has the usual 24 hours available but there are some people who manage to exploit them much better than others.
Thanks to the Wheel of Life, our situation is very different now than it was a few minutes ago.
1) We know exactly what our situation is in each area: only through awareness can we decide to intervene;
2) We have decided on which areas to intervene to improve them.
At this point, for each of the 3 chosen areas, we can write 3 concrete actions that will allow us to improve these aspects of our life. I want to improve the area of Health, Relations and Personal Growth. What can be 3 simple actions, for each of these areas, that would allow me to make a good qualitative leap?
a) I will go biking twice a week for 2 hours;
b) I will stop drinking sugary drinks;
c) I will take blood tests regularly.
It is very simple as you can see. It is enough to choose simple actions that you can put into practice immediately, right away.
a) Every time I enter the office I will greet everyone with a smile instead of slipping into my room with my head down;
b) I will be organizing a dinner with those longtime friends later this month;
c) I will pay close attention to being available (not available) to others.
a) I will read 1 personal development book every month;
b) I will stop postponing that English course that I should have done years ago. I will register within this week;
c) I will subscribe to that blog that deals with topics of personal growth. Link to UpgradeYourMind newsletter
It’s simple … write to them. Once we have written it we know that we will have made important decisions with ourselves and therefore we will not be able to fail to honor them.
In exactly 1 month we will do a Wheel of Life check-up and if we have done what we have decided today we will be able to verify with great satisfaction how these areas have improved. The graph of the Wheel of Life will change because we are following the path of balance. This is the right way to live a happy and fulfilling life.
I Conclude With …
The credit for this is not the Wheel of Life; this is just a tool, a great tool but always just a tool. We are what will make the difference. If we are able to do what we have decided today, the results will come.
If, on the other hand, we have consciously decided that we can do without all this, that’s okay too: the important thing is to be aware that if improvements do not come, there is a reason!
The Wheel of Life
How do you feel in this moment of life? Could it be better, or is it all a vale of tears? If you had more awareness, would you feel better? I would say yes! We begin the journey with the most powerful tool, the Wheel of Life, which I have experienced with many people. Analyze life from a more general perspective, to gradually understand the areas that make it up. I urge you to use this tool to be able to check all aspects
of your life at all times.
The Wheel of Life will help you gauge your level of happiness in the different sections of life. You need a white sheet and you can make a circle divided into eight sectors, as shown in the photo. Under each border you should write the names of the aspects that determine your life, regardless of the order: physical or health, spirituality / social contribution, family, peer group/friends, finances/money, living environment, work, personal growth .
The graphic designer has always reminded me of creamy cheeses packaged in wedges, which when I was little I loved to eat but at the same time, I was sorry to remove a wedge from the whole. Each area must be evaluated from zero to ten with today’s grade of judgment. There is no objective way to evaluate each area, this is a personal evaluation. Think on a scale of zero to ten, how satisfied are you with that specific area of your life?
Health: are you satisfied with your psychological and physical condition? You may think it’s time to learn new, healthier habits, such as quitting smoking, exercising, eating less and healthier, or learning to manage stress and anxiety. Have you had any illnesses in the past? This always suggests that health is the basis of everything. If you don’t have energy, you can’t face small and big daily challenges.
Money: Does your income allow you to lead the standard of living you want? Are you satisfied with the money you can have day by day? How satisfied are you with your financial situation? Are you in debt or are you in a prosperous situation? Do you feel overwhelmed by debt? Suppose someone would like to have a lot of money in the bank and the mortgage paid, but right now it comes to the end of the month, how satisfied can they be with it all? I would say little, maybe 3 or 4! Spirituality and Contribution to the World: How Much Are You Contributing to the Cause of a Better World? What relationship do you have with spirituality or religion? How much do you help your neighbour? Have you identified a higher mission or purpose that goes beyond the material aspects?
The family: in your role as parent and child, how are you doing? Do you often talk to your family but don’t see them anymore? You don’t spend a lot of time with your family and would like to dedicate more space?
Friends: Do you often go out with friends? Are you there for them in time of need? Would they be there for you? Are you satisfied with your friends?
The living environment: are you comfortable in the place where you live? You can still live with your parents in a welcoming and comfortable environment, but maybe you would like to fully enjoy your freedom? Do you like the house, the neighbourhood, the city and the country of residence? Maybe you just moved in and haven’t adjusted to your new home.
Work: Do you wake up every morning happy to go to work? Do you feel motivated and satisfied with your role at work? Do you have good working relationships? How do you feel in the relationship with your boss and colleagues? Have you lost your job and are now unemployed?
Personal growth: do you feel fulfilled doing what you’ve always wanted? Are you on a personal growth path? Regardless of the type of professional activity, you can always learn new things that make you feel “on the move”.
Always remember the growth-personale.org motto “Everything that does not grow dies!” For example, if you don’t have much free time because another area absorbs you completely or almost completely, you will have a low score. A high score means that you are satisfied with what you are getting, whatever you do. A low score means that you are not effective and are not having a balanced life. Always remember that the score depends on the relationship between your perception and your expectations. By measuring the level of satisfaction in all areas you get the general outlook on life and you can probably see where to intervene. Not sure about all the values you have set? Review the ratings and don’t hesitate to change them until you’re satisfied, but be honest. Now that you have all the scores, let’s explain how to represent your Wheel of Life.
With the starting circle into eight equal segments, divide each slice into ten segments which will be colored based on your area rating from 1 to 10. To finish the first life map, move on to the next. A picture is worth a thousand words! As you see the photograph of your current life? These segments are the sections from which you can build your own happiness in life and measure the areas where you can improve yourself. This Wheel of Life represents the global map. You will see how much clarity of mind you will have after drawing it. So get busy designing the Wheel of Life and then tell me in the comments how it went. Ok?