Today is the World Suicide Prevention Day. It has become a global problem now, more than anyone ever could have imagined it to become. It has even crossed the rate of deaths that happen due to road accidents. I want to say that first of all, people must remove the association of the act of suicide with cowardice and bravery or anything other. Can you not stop judging and comparing the pain of the person who had a lot already to deal with, at least now that he or she is gone? Just stop it. According to the World Health Organisation, a person dies by committing suicide In every 40 seconds. Know what to do if a friend is suicidal.
Certainly, there are problems but suicide is not the problem. It is the consequence that many problems led to. Stop judging and understand this. Start with the correct mindset of ‘how can we ensure that this consequence is not an option to the problems as presented in front of the troubled individual?”
‘Suicide is never the solution is an incomplete statement. There needs to be a discussion and one must then, come to a resolution about what is. Stop talking about the disadvantages of suicide. At least, stop shaming the troubled now.
Stop associating adjectives to the act. Start promoting the solutions to the problems. Hearing ‘I know that you can handle it alone because you are so strong’ when a person shares her problems with you is not only irritating but disheartening too and this pushes the person closer to the act of suicide. Stop victim-blaming and victim shaming. In fact, stop seeing people with problems as ‘warriors’ or ‘victims’. It burdens them further. Lend a helping hand instead.
Your ‘consolations’ do not work if your actions do not match them. Do not say that you are there for the other person when you can not be. This means that you are giving them false hopes and a person cannot sustain much longer on them. Also, please stop associating suicide with an act of redemption or which will take you to hell. Do not tell someone that if they commit suicide, their family will feel bad or that they will be responsible for the troubles of their family.
This is also victim shaming and this comes from a place of judgment. A judgmental thought or attitude has never helped anyone. Religious superstitions have already proved to be misleading and the ones who are snatching away the essence of humanity from within the human beings. If you are spiritual, you would restrain from being judgemental and will rather be compassionate and also will understand that the humans have manipulated all the original concepts and molded them to serve their selfish needs. Do not try to encourage suicidal people by giving examples of Gods and their stories. Virtue, wisdom, or even courage are not to be talked about when discussing suicide. The cycle of life and death is eternal, inevitable, and must be respected but do not use it against those who seek the solution to their pain through the act of suicide.
If you cannot be non-judgmental and know a person who may be feeling suicidal, direct them to a good mental health professional who has expertise in handling such cases. Do not start taking decisions or judging on your own. You do not know a lot of the facets of the issue. However, showing compassion will help the person.
Do not ask them to shut up.
Instead, encourage them to speak up.
Support them and help them in standing up.
They do not want to give up.
Nobody, since they were a child
Had a thought that they want to die.
In no normal circumstances, does a person take respite
Or seek a solution in the form of suicide.
If you will let go of your judgment
Them an empathetic ear
So that they can share
Their experiences, pain, and struggle
And whatever comes into their brain
Without feeling like they are inviting trouble
Or that their confession will lead to further shame,
They may understand that life can be better.
If you stop putting an unnecessary burden
Of their family and the toxic society on the top of their own expectations.
Things may turn out to be in everyone’s favor.
What Is Suicide?
Suicide, as derived from the word ‘suicide’ means to take one’s life. It was suggested by Sir Thomas Browne in his book. It is believed that the first attempt of suicide was around 434 BC with the wrong belief that taking one’s own life and disrupting the natural cycle of life and death will lead to the redemption of his soul. He saw death as a transformation.
It is believed that in April, May, and June, the suicide rates rise. Switzerland is believed to provide the best mental health care to its citizens even in the future. There are professionals here and the health care is affordable. The health care facilities and providers serve their purpose of giving proper mental health care in a very good manner.
What are the symptoms of suicidal ideation?
These symptoms may overlap with the symptoms of the disorders of anxiety and depression. This is a thought process that is limited to the mind and not yet done physically. These symptoms are extremely hard to identify because the people who think similarly hide their feelings and thoughts from others and pretend that everything is ok because they do not want to hurt others or give them an opportunity to stop the act from happening.
- Thinking about or planning how to commit suicide
- Showing signs that death will give more happiness than life
- Even considering committing suicide
- Feeling trapped
- Feeling hopeless
- Emotional pain may also be a symptom
- The mind is preoccupied with the thoughts of violence towards oneself
- Mood swings
- Feelings of guilt or shame may be involved
- Changes in the patterns of sleep
- Substance abuse
- Regret towards being or staying alive
- Finding no purpose in doing things which one used to enjoy doing earlier
- It may also be that there is no such reason but the person feels that she or he has experienced all the emotions and phases that one can in one’s life and now they want to see nothing more and want the journey to end
You may say that suicide is not the solution
But then, what is?
There needs to be a detailed discussion
On this particular topic.
Just refusing an alternative which is dangerous
Does not negate or make the problem
Vanish completely off of one’s shoulder,
Especially, if it is so heavy that it cannot be carried any longer.
This statement is not the end
Rather, it is the beginning
Of addressing the problem
Which is disturbing the individual from within.
There is more to it than a full stop
There are thoughts and ideas which follow.
Some of them are to be rejected and
some of them lead to the ones that need to be implemented.
If you cannot take responsibility for another individual’s happiness,
Do not put yourself in a situation, through your judgment,
Where you add to their burden
Or you may trigger them to take any painful step.
If that will be, whenever you will realize,
Their pain may be passed on to you in the form of regret.
So, do not create such a situation in the first place.
Instead of passing judgment, learn to be compassionate.
What To Do If A Friend Is Suicidal?
Suicide is a growing problem in the United States. In 2015, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) found that suicide rates had increased in almost every age group from 1999 to 2014, with 25 states reporting increases of more than 30%. Suicide is the tenth leading cause of death in the United States, and it is one of two leading causes of death among teenagers and young adults aged 10-34 years. Some experts believe that the increase in suicide rates may also be tied to the rise in prescription opioid use. According to the CDC, suicide is the third leading cause of death among people aged 10-34 years who were prescribed opioids, after chronic lower respiratory disease and accidental drug poisoning.
My Friend Is Suicidal: What Should I Do?
There is a book by author and clinical psychologist Dr. Leslie Lebowitz that gives advice on how to help a friend who is struggling with feelings of suicidal thoughts. It goes by the title, My Friend Is Suicidal: What Should I Do? It is a good resource for teenagers and adults who want to know how to talk to a friend who is considering or has attempted suicide. The website of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention can help you in this case. There is a Facebook group and a Facebook page with various resources for friends and family of those who have experienced a suicide attempt or completed suicide. You can access these resources by clicking on the link for “Supporting Friends and Family” on the Suicide Crisis Line website.
How to Help When a Friend Is Feeling Suicidal?
This resource from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is a good start for understanding how you can help a friend who is feeling suicidal. It can be a valuable tool for family members and friends of people who are suicidal. Suicide is not a light topic. It is one that impacts individuals of all ages and backgrounds. I want to encourage you to take the time to learn about suicide and to learn about the resources available to you and your loved ones when these difficult and sensitive topics arise. If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255.
If you need immediate help, call 911 or go to the nearest hospital emergency room. Suicide and depression often go hand in hand, so it’s important to understand the differences between the two.
Suicide is the intentional ending of life. People who attempt suicide usually have a severe mental illness, like depression. It’s important to understand the warning signs of suicide and to seek help if you are concerned about someone who may be suicidal.
Depression is a medical condition that has a treatment with medication and other therapies. Depression often makes people feel sad, helpless, guilty, hopeless, and even angry or agitated. People with depression may also experience physical symptoms, such as fatigue, loss of appetite, sleep problems, and irritability. Depression is typically a chronic, recurring mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Depression is treatable with medication and other therapies.
In conclusion, it is important to be aware of the warning signs that a friend might be suicidal. Know what to do if a friend is suicidal. If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, it’s important to talk to someone about these feelings and seek professional help.
It can be difficult to recognize that a friend is in pain and may intend to end their own life. The most important thing you can do for someone who may be suicidal is to take them seriously, persistently ask questions, and try not to judge them.