Sextrology is a discipline that places sexual behavior, normal and/or pathological at the center of its interest, and deals with studying its manifestations in relation to the social context of the individual.
Sexuality, procreation, contraception have been talked about since the dawn of time. Of course in a scientific way in relatively recent times, but it is only with the industrial revolution and the possibility through tools, such as the microscope, to have correct information on the functioning of the human body and we begin to know the biological basis of sexual response.
The sexologist, doctor, or psychologist, is a professional who deals with the sexual health of the individual.
The sexologist in order to carry out his task must know anatomy, psychology, and sociology.
Sexual behavior is the manifestation of a body, mind, and culture, it is a complex response, it is the metaphor of our life, of how we live life.
Good sexual functioning, both individually and as a couple, is an indication of a good state of health, physical, psychological, and relational.
In fact, not everyone knows that an erectile deficit can be an indicator of cardio-circulatory disorders, or that to have satisfactory sexuality you need to have psychological skills such as letting go, curiosity, and the desire to discover and listen to oneself and others.
This is why unsatisfactory sexuality does not mean “not having technique” but, once organic problems have been excluded, it means not being in the correct psycho-emotional conditions, it means working on oneself and/or on the couple to remove the obstacles that do not allow access to good sexuality that can refer to taboos, erroneous beliefs, difficulties in communicating with the partner, stress and much more.
Sexuality is a good of the person that can be lived, even as a couple, within one’s life plan, respecting oneself and others.
Sextrology as a discipline does not only deal with sexual dysfunctions but also with providing correct information, which is scientifically based, with intervening through prevention and information programs on the factors that favor sexual well-being.
Let’s see for example a question that parents often ask me “my 4-year-old son touches himself, he seems to masturbate, what does it mean, how to help him stop?
As a psychologist-sexologist, I often deal with providing the correct information about certain behaviors, which if not read correctly could be misinterpreted leading to ineffective solutions.
In fact, the auto-eroticism that appears in 3/4-year-old children is still perceived today as a taboo. It actually has a very important function.
For example, the little child discovers his own body pattern through the touch of his own body, understands the boundaries between himself and the other, between what is self-respectful and what is not through the right distance with the other. Babies have sexuality already at the time of birth. They feel pleasure in contact, they explore each other, and are intrigued by the other. The meaning they give is different, it is not related to orgasmic pleasure.
Infantile masturbation has nothing to do with adult masturbation, it often represents a comforting and anti-stress behavior, but the wrong conception on the part of adults who live this behavior in an erotic way creates tension in the adult-child relationship, which suffers pressure to interrupt this behavior while failing to offer an alternative behavior to the need expressed with masturbatory behavior.
Taking up the question of worried parents, I would explain what infantile autoeroticism is, its anti-stress function and filler of a state of boredom, I would invite parents to observe when it occurs, to discover its meaning, and to teach the child different behaviors to achieve his goal.
For example, if the child is bored when parents prepare dinner and they do not pay attention to him and through masturbation, he has learned to pass the time or to attract attention because they scold him, I would suggest that parents occupy their child’s time in a way that useful, to involve him more. Masturbation will then disappear.
If in the animal world sexuality has only a reproductive function, in the human being it still has a reproductive but also playful and relational function, it is a way to get in touch with oneself and with others, it is an element of expression of one’s personality.
Sexuality as mentioned is present from birth to death and in all conditions of life, mental handicap, and physical disability.
The sexologist deals with:
Promote knowledge of the human body and its functioning especially as regards sexuality.
Promote people the ability to make informed choices for themselves and their partners.
Sexology is a discipline that brings together a wide and vast doctrinal field, in which different sciences such as biology, ethology, medicine, psychology, pedagogy, sociology, anthropology, etc. converge. as the object of his studies, sexuality, is a subject of multi-disciplinary competence open to the contribution that each one can bring on the basis of his own specific preparation.
Sexology is therefore the discipline that studies the biological, ethological, medical, psychological, pedagogical, cultural, and social aspects of sexuality and the sexologist is the scholar who deals with sexology in the various application fields of knowledge and research, whose knowledge can also find applications of a clinical, therapeutic or even educational nature.
In a general sense, in fact, the term sexologist can indicate any figure who works in the area of human sexuality and sexual health such as the andrologist or gynecologist, psychologist, or psychotherapist, but also the educator, sociologist, or the anthropologist of sexual behavior.
At the level of common sense, the sexologist is recognized as the capable and expert professional figure to turn to in case of problems concerning the sphere of one’s sexuality and able to intervene on the various dysfunctions that can hinder or make it difficult to fully express one’s own sexuality. sex life.
In truth, at a legislative and professional level it must be said that it is instead a figure absolutely under definition and precisely for this reason, we prefer to indicate as a reference figure for the psychological problems of sexuality and sexual disorders, the psychotherapist and psychotherapy as a treatment, also in line with the resolution of the College of full professors and researchers. Of Clinical Psychology of the Italian Universities, which have indicated Psychosexology among the many areas of the relevance of Clinical Psychology.
The problems of the sexual sphere
The problems of the sexual sphere always underlie, when they are of psychogenic origin and in the absence of organic correlates, some implication of a personal nature and/or of the emotional life of the couple. This is precisely because human sexuality, in addition to having bio-medical aspects, is above all “something for someone”, that is, it can never be separated from the meanings that people attribute to their experiences. In short, human sexuality does not it is never a purely “mechanical” fact, but, on the contrary, it is essentially characterized by its involvement of an emotional and psychic nature, which can be faced precisely through a path of individual or couple psychotherapy.
Sexological counseling consists of a brief intervention (usually of a few interviews) that can be addressed to a single person or to the couple. In this context, generally, issues related to temporary difficulties, minor disturbances, or uncomfortable relationships are dealt with, and very often it has an essentially informative character.
Sexological counseling is generally useful for dealing with problems concerning sexuality and for allowing a full and satisfying expression of sexual life. It is possible to work through sexological counseling with targeted intervention, of a few meetings, to clarify to the patient the elements that will allow him to better live his sexuality or to define with him the path to take.
Sexological counseling can concern topics related to:
the sexual development of childhood;
to interpersonal and couple relationships;
the problems of procreative sexuality;
the sexuality of the elderly;
problems of sexual identity;
the sexuality of the disabled person;
upon the termination of pregnancy:
the specific problems of male and female sexuality
to the expression of an atypical sexuality
The intervention in clinical sexology: the therapy of sexual disorders
The intervention in clinical sexology is always a psychotherapeutic act. The therapy of sexual disorders and problems relating to sexual life has as its aim not only the dissolution of the sexual problem but also the maintenance of the psychosexual well-being achieved. The psychotherapeutic model on which the clinical intervention practice is based, proposed by the Italian Society of Sexology and Sexual Education, refers to Personal Construct Psychotherapy (PCP) developed by George Kelly.
“In Personal Construct Psychotherapy (PCP), one takes care of the other and does not simply cure a cluster of symptoms. The other is a vision of the world, a story, and his way of telling it. For this reason, diagnosis in PCP must be not a way to classify the discomfort, but a tool for understanding the person as a whole and in his movement, starting from his meanings, from the way in which he erects them and transforms them into actions. A diagnosis, therefore, which tells us about a process, makes a story accessible, anticipating its possible evolutions in order to design a change together ”. (Massimo Giliberto)
Sextrology: what exactly is the treatment path to the specialist
Dr. Randone, the author of the articles in the “sex and sex” column, explains the steps to get out of couple crises with the help of the expert
I like to imagine sexology as an island embraced by the sea with many drawbridges to other disciplines, which it feeds on and to which it makes great contributions.
Sexology is a relatively recent science; it is a branch of psychology or medicine.
The clinical sexologist is in fact a psychologist, a psychotherapist, or a doctor (regularly graduated and enrolled in his professional register) who has achieved a specialization of about four or five years, depending on the specialization school in clinical sexology he has chosen to attend.
Those who marry the care of love are usually kidnapped by the passion for care and are happily trapped in that ever new labyrinth that is sexuality conjugated to the psyche and the body, and never stops studying and deepening the themes they have. chosen to treat. Thus, the ten years it takes to truly cure a patient or a couple becomes an infinite time that accompanies the clinician throughout his life together with that of his patients.
Sexology is a discipline that studies the biological, medical, psychological, pedagogical, cultural, and social aspects of sexuality. And the clinical sexologist is the scholar who deals with sexology. Depending on your inclinations, you can choose to devote yourself to teaching or research, scientific dissemination or treatment, training, and information through affective and sexual education courses.
Modern sexology began in 1948 with the compilation of the first Kinsey report on sexual behavior. These pioneering studies have sensitized public opinion and medicine, and have made sexuality finally become an object of study.
Many scholars began to deal with pleasure as well as pain and to understand that the absence of pleasure in life and in the couple was a cause and also a consequence of many psycho-bodily and relational discomforts.
The study of a clinical sexologist
Sexuality, indeed sex, is often spoken of, everywhere. On modal magazines, on television, online, on social networks, with all possible languages: hyper-scientific that does not reach the heart of those who really need but create confusion and detachment, to arrive at a language that is too friendly or scurrilous that creates more embarrassment what a therapeutic alliance.
Despite this and despite the spread of sexual dysfunctions, even when young, of separations and suffering of the heart and body, crossing the door of the sexologist’s office is still very difficult.
Men, despite having visible and quantifiable sexuality, try in every way to mystify the sexual discomfort and to postpone the request for help as much as possible. They feel embarrassed, ashamed, they prefer to heal themselves in therapeutic self-management, even though they are aware that they do not solve anything at all and face risks for their health. Women, the foreign minister of the couple relationship, with patience and love strategies, usually manage to bring their men into consultation. Women are those who take charge of the discomfort of the couple and the family, who seek the most trained professional, who documents themselves, and who often go-ahead to try to find a solution to save their bond of love and their family.
A separate discussion must be made for the young and anxious patient. The young and psychogenic patient – whose sexual dysfunction has no organic cause – comes to the consultation very tired and unmotivated. He has made many diagnostic and treatment pilgrimages: he passed from one doctor to another, from one drug therapy to another, without stopping to reflect on the meaning of the sexual symptom.
The patient has often been dismissed with the infamous and redundant phrase: “She has nothing. It’s just a matter of mind ”.
A phrase that, while on the one hand should reassure the patient about the absence of an organic irritative spine of his sexual discomfort, on the other hand, it plunges him into an abyss of despair making him feel seriously ill. Chronic.
With this dismissal sentence, the psychogenic patient is left to a destiny of unknown and anxiety, which nourishes and worsens his previous anxiety.
In the case of a man, the diagnosis should always be andro-sexological: jointly analyze psyche, body, and couple. The same modus operandi should be applied for the female patient and for the unhappy, infertile, conflicted, or angry couple.
From sexual alibis to treatment
Sexology also deals with immobile, unhappy, or turbulent relationships. Many partners get trapped inside an extinct or dying bond, already shipwrecked for some time, whose prelude was studded with a whole series of psychosomatic and sexual symptoms, of which the couple has ignored the existence.
At a certain point in their life together, the irreparable happens a symptom that worsens, betrayal, or abandonment. Only then does the couple really set out on the road? She turns to a clinical sexologist and tries to stem the separative process.
The partners overwhelmed and pierced by pain decide not to spend any of their days in darkness anymore, a week without a project, a night without love, a vacation without a vacation. They no longer want to live in a house without desire.
They require a first consultation which can remain as such or become a treatment path. In the case of a couple in consultation, and then in therapy, both are listened to: first jointly and then separately, reassuring them that no news of one will pass to the other and vice versa. In a further interview, the costs and benefits of the path to be taken are evaluated together with the patients. The clinical sexologist establishes what could be the most suitable therapeutic path for the uniqueness of their couple and their suffering, explaining to them, step by step, the emotion of a path of treatment, with the secret hope of being able to mend the tears created by the silence and the time spent without becoming aware of the discomfort experienced.
The first sexological consultation – sometimes consisting of several meetings – is the place for listening and for planning.
In the case of the single patient, it is useful for addressing issues concerning sexuality, affectivity, parenting, or the relationship with parental figures, and much more. In any case, during the sexological consultations, we tend to clarify, to then establish whether it is appropriate to intervene later with a deeper path.
Psycho-sexological counseling covers various issues such as developmental age, sexual development, and parental anxieties. Affective and sexual education. The examination of interpersonal and couple relationships; with a look at parental influences and the new couple. The problems of the infertile couple, with the inevitable cascading effects of infertility on sexuality, and sexual dysfunctions on fertility.
Problems relating to sexual identity, transsexualism, homosexual couples. Sexuality during the various stages of life: from adolescence to sexuality in the elderly. Sexuality and affectivity during pregnancy, after childbirth, when the couple becomes a family. Problems relating to termination of pregnancy, or a young pregnancy.
An important distinction must be made between counseling and therapy. Psycho-sexological counseling can also be carried out by a psychologist who has undergone partial training in clinical sexology (two years), sex therapy, therefore that treatment path aimed at treating sexual dysfunctions, of the patient’s body and psyche, should only be performed by a clinical sexologist.
The study, hospitality, privacy, sensitive data, and health receipt
One of the questions a reader or patient asks me during the first phone call is related to the organization of the study. The patient who is afraid and ashamed of having to ask for help from a clinical sexologist inquires about the possibility or not of meeting other patients. The studies of those who do my work are usually structured in such a way as to avoid one patient meeting another. They are studios with a double door, without a waiting room, and privacy becomes the central element of the organization of the studio.
Another decisive element to protect the patient’s privacy and the presence or absence of secretaries. Many of us, by choice, decide not to have any intermediary between the patient and the treatment protocol. Health receipts are also issued by the professional in order to prevent sensitive patient data from being peeked by prying eyes.
In this regard, there is a possibility for professionals working in the health sector to further protect the patient’s or couple’s data. In fact, there is a stamp to the opposition by which the data will not be communicated to the revenue agency. The patient pays the professional’s fees and the professional take care of protecting his data by putting the stamp of the opposition on the invoice. So in the event that the tax return should be made by a relative, an uncle or a friend of the family, it can be established whether or not to show the sexological path taken.
Another question I am asked is how long any therapy will last, how long will it take to resolve this or that sexual dysfunction, the trauma of betrayal or that abandonment, that discomfort or that bereavement. The prognosis, whether it is for individual or couple therapy, always depends on the diagnosis. Diagnosis is that moment, or rather more than one, of deep listening, of anamnestic collection, of integration of the various medical examinations in case they are indispensable, in order to be able to give a face and a name to sexual distress. Once this is done, we will begin to work respecting the internal times of each patient, respecting the defense mechanisms of the psyche, values, and personality structure. Haste in this case does not help the real and deep resolution of problems.
The sexologist before the lawyer. From prevention to promotion.
In the absence of symptoms, reconcile eroticism, and everyday life. “Love stability is the tomb of sex.” A phrase is so redundant that it is part of the clichés on sexuality. As if all monogamous relationships inevitably lead to the death of passion, the decline of desire, boredom, betrayal, abandonment. It is as if the security of love must necessarily be paid in erotic devaluation.
Even in these cases, the clinical sexologist helps couples not to fall into the abyss of commonplaces, into the precipice of amorous and sexual obviousness.
The work on the desire and quality of life of the couple is a work of prevention and promotion of love and sexual well-being. You can’t force desire, you can’t even prescribe it (fortunately), but you can create with the couple and for the couple that atmosphere in which desire can blossom. They learn to cut the dead branches of communication and to fertilize the bond of love. The verbal caresses of the therapy help the couple to listen to each other, to kiss again, to look into each other’s eyes, for a redirection of conjugal eros.
In sexology work, the imagery and erotic fantasies provide an inexhaustible source of information on the patient’s inner life and on the relational dynamics of his couple. Sexology also deals with the examination of the imaginary, and how much this can be of help or hindrance to healthy and vibrant love life. Sexuality is not a doing but a being; dealing exclusively and merely with the genital and merely bodily aspect is highly short-sighted and reductive.
Sex therapy represents a big hug. A place within which the couple does not feel questioned, judged, pointed out or wrong. The sessions represent a place to live with empathy, affection, care, and deep respect. The bond that is created with the clinical sexologist is a strong and deep bond that lasts a long time, even at the end of the course. The therapist remains in equilibrium within the working triangle, without being triangulated or manipulated by one or the other partner. The goal is always and only the well-being and care of the couple, not the search for the culprit. The ultimate goal is to bring order within that jumble of psychic ingredients that the couple brings to therapy, to give them back the tools for shared navigation.
From the fear of judgment to love therapies
Carrying out a witch hunt, necessarily looking for the culprit of emotional and sexual distress is a type of short-sighted path that does not lead to any possible reconstruction. Furthermore, complaining about sexual boredom, decreased desire and the most varied sexual dysfunctions or heart problems are easy and conventional. Turning to professionals in charge of sexuality care, solving sexual problems, cultivating eroticism between the sheets is an act of declared courage.
In a couple, even mistreated by life, there is always something to discover. The sexologist guides them like a tour operator in those internal places where the couple has not yet gone, in search of that hidden treasure, of something else that can still trigger the spark before it is too late.
In that journey called listening, sometimes the most important things of patients are seen with the ears and with the heart.
The words that heal, caress, and listen represent the possibility of mending what has been shattered. The sadness that floods the heart and body can undoubtedly be transformed into a wonderful new beginning. For single patients and couples.
Sexuality is a complex dimension of human reality. In fact, sexuality does not end in the biological or hormonal dimension but implies the emotionality, the sensation, the perception of a body that we recognize in its entirety, the contact, the relationship, the thoughts, and fantasies that help us to ignite the desire. or on the contrary, the fears and worries connected with it.
INDIVIDUAL AND COUPLE
In working on sexual dysfunctions as a sexologist, I follow an integrated methodology. The therapy in fact analyzes the more personal and inner aspects of the person as well as focuses on the identification of relational/bodily meanings, to investigate the psychological aspects that can continue to sustain sexual difficulty. This clinical intervention is completed by continuously integrating with a more behavioral work that includes prescriptive and experiential aspects (integrated job therapy with the related “erotic tasks”) aimed at eliminating sexual symptoms. This type of intervention aims at understanding and extinguishing the symptoms in a fairly short period of time.
Sex therapy is aimed at both individuals and couples. Where a partner is present, it can be more fruitful to intervene on the couple since the sexual difficulty is often the manifestation of difficulty in the couple’s sexuality or in its relationship.
The sexual difficulty is often a psychosomatic manifestation that at a certain moment after having structured itself over time, emerges as a symptom to express the difficulty in relating to oneself or in relation to others, for example, or the difficulty in living in harmony with one’s body. or to live one’s identity harmoniously.
Working with people on sexuality usually emerge emotional and relational difficulties that are discussed and elaborated because they affect the body exchange and, in the couple, the possibility of exchanging mutual attention. This is precise because sexuality speaks not only of bodies and biology but also of emotionality and communication.
I deal specifically with:
disorders of sexual desire
sexual arousal disorders (female arousal disorder; male erection disorder)
orgasmic disorders (male and female anorgasmia; premature ejaculation)
sexual pain disorders (dyspareunia, vaginismus)
I carry out seminars and psychoeducational counseling on sexuality in children and adolescents
I carry out affective-sexual education courses for pre-adolescents and adolescents in schools
AFFECTIVE AND SEXUAL EDUCATION
We know adolescence is the most highly emotional transition phase of our life as it involves changes of a physical, cognitive, and emotional nature. Talking about sexuality with teenagers often turns out to be a difficult and demanding experience even for attentive and sensitive parents. The most common reaction to the increased curiosity of children is to give voice to silence or to ambiguous and lacking answers. However, it is forgotten that silence is full of meanings that adolescents absorb by reacting with further detachment and closure. Today, within the media reality in which we find ourselves, it is increasingly easier for young people to have access to the discovery of sexuality through the network that becomes the sexual educator par excellence.
However, the network is not always punctual and precise in the dissemination of information and “everything shows”. But the network is unable to provide adolescents with an adequate emotional container in which to insert those “technical” images and explanations on how “sexuality is done” which is stripped of any necessary emotional involvement. This involves considerable risks from physical ones (spreading sexually transmitted diseases for example) to psychological ones (confusion, abuse, feelings of inadequacy, etc.).
Sex education is aimed at:
teenagers so that they can find a non-judgmental welcoming space in which to discuss unknown doubts and emotions, within a scientifically correct cognitive framework
parents to support them and help them find a suitable, welcoming communication method capable of meeting the difficulties of their children in discovering affectivity and sexuality.
SUPPORT OF THE SEXOLOGIST TO PREGNANCY AND PARENTAL
Pregnancy, its planning, expectation, childbirth are important emotional stages in a couple’s life: real-life transitions. The couple experiences a global “reorganization” that marks the transition from a present, known condition to a new unknown and only imagined one. Both members of the couple are confronted with a necessary personal and relational re-elaboration: only in this way is it possible to rebalance and develop new skills relating to the new role we are called to cover.
The transition to parenthood lowers the quality of the couple’s relationship, highlights stress and risks for the couple’s balance and intimate sex life. In fact, sexual life can take on different dimensions both during the wait and after the baby is born. The consultation with the sexologist allows the couple or the person to be supported in this passage of life so that, with more awareness, the new parental pact (taking care of the children in a conscious and responsible way) can be integrated with that of the couple already experienced.
After birth, the couple is accompanied by the sexologist in supporting parenting in the face of the critical issues that the couple may encounter in the first days and in the first moments of the relationship with the newborn because such an important moment, but also emotionally charged, can be lived and addressed. towards a principle of personal and family well-being.
SUPPORT OF THE SEXOLOGIST TO PREGNANCY AND PARENTALITY
Pregnancy, its planning, expectation, childbirth are important emotional stages in a couple’s life: real-life transitions. The couple experiences a global “reorganization” that marks the transition from a present, known condition to a new unknown and only imagined one. Both members of the couple are confronted with a necessary personal and relational re-elaboration: only in this way is it possible to rebalance and develop new skills relating to the new role we are called to cover. The transition to parenthood lowers the quality of the couple’s relationship, highlights stress and risks for the couple’s balance and intimate sex life.
In fact, sexual life can take on different dimensions both during the wait and after the baby is born. The consultation with the sexologist allows the couple or the person to be supported in this passage of life so that, with more awareness, the new parental pact (taking care of the children in a conscious and responsible way) can be integrated with that of the couple already experienced. After birth, the couple is accompanied by the sexologist in supporting parenting in the face of the critical issues that the couple may encounter in the first days and in the first moments of the relationship with the newborn because such an important moment, but also emotionally charged, can be lived and addressed. towards a principle of personal and family well-being.
Here are some scientifically proven benefits that sex has on the body:
1 – Helps strengthen the immune system
Having sex helps people get sick less. Wilkes University researchers found that the saliva of college students who had sex with an average frequency of twice a week contained 30% more immunoglobulin A (an antibody that helps fight colds and the most common flu ) than peers with a less active or much more intense sex life.
2 – Increase sexual desire (libido)
A saying says that appetite comes with eating. It’s the same with sex. Having sex will not only help make it more satisfying in the long run but will lead the person to experience a noticeable increase in libido. The desire will grow hand in hand with the sexual acts performed. Especially for women, who can experience an increase in vaginal lubrication and its elasticity: factors that will push them to desire more activity.
Personal satisfaction helps couple harmony and generates or keeps sentimental love high.
3 – Makes you look younger
The pleasure that comes from the sexual act is a crucial factor in preserving youth, especially considering the benefits derived from the chemicals released in the brain. If 25% of the youthful appearance would depend on the genetic makeup, in fact, 75% would instead be linked to the lifestyle and behavior patterns adopted: among the latter, having sex three times a week would allow preserving a younger appearance also ten years old!
4 – Reduces the risk of heart disease
Having good sexual activity is good for the heart.
The heart beats faster, as in sports, and this activity also regulates estrogen and testosterone levels in a balanced way.
Men with inactive sex life, i.e. with a frequency of sexual intercourse less than once a month, would be exposed to a greater risk of cardiovascular disease than those who have sex two or more times a week. This is the result of research carried out at the New England Research Institute and published in the American Journal of Cardiology.
5 – Improve bladder control in women
Having sex and thus making the pelvic muscles work helps women fight incontinence, improving bladder control. It is the orgasm itself, thanks to the contractions it provides, which makes the entire area stronger.
6 – Fights headaches
Sex could help alleviate pain caused by migraines and cluster headaches, according to a recent study conducted by researchers at the University of Munster in Germany.
Orgasm in fact stimulates the production of substances in the body capable of raising a person’s pain threshold. For women, there are also other possibilities: especially for menstrual cramps and even for headaches even simple vaginal stimulation is sufficient. Even that resulting from masturbation. (from Medicine Live)
7 – Improve sleep
In fact, sex favors the production of oxytocin (the so-called “love hormone”, which among its effects includes the ability to promote sleep) and decreases the production of cortisol, the stress hormone. These hormonal changes induce the body to a state of relaxation that promotes sleep.
8 – Helps fight prostate cancer
Men who have frequent ejaculations, at least 21 per month, are much more likely to never experience prostate cancer. And the good news is that no matter what stimulation was at the basis of sperm emission: nocturnal pollutions are also as useful as all other types of ejaculatory activity. (From Medicina Live)
9 – Fights stress
Sex is an excellent anti-stress that can, thanks to orgasm and hormones, including endorphins, released during sexual activity, to quell anxiety and at the same time promote the growth of self-esteem.
10 – It burns calories.
The last benefit, not to be underestimated: Sex falls by right into the different varieties of physical activity that a person can do. About 6 calories are burned per minute, a number that increases according to the effort of the sexual position taken into consideration. Not to mention that it raises the heart rate and allows you to use a good part of the muscles. Obviously the more you do, the greater the results.
In conclusion, sextrology is a new way to understand the secrets of the two sexes. It has been proven that, on average, men have sex more often than women. In addition, men tend to have more partners than women and be more likely to commit adultery. There is a lot of fascinating information about these differences in sextrology.
So if you’re a woman who’s wondering why your man won’t put the dishes away or always wants sex, this is probably why!
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